Trevor Reznik wrote:Alice Raizel wrote:Trevor Reznik wrote:You have created my problem. You admitted it. It was you.
Yes, I am
all powerful! Evil feminists are entirely responsible for your inability to get laid. The fact that you are an off-the-scale sexist douchebag has nothing to do with it and you are in no way responsible for your situation.
http://jezebel.com/5906648/the-angry-un ... up-artistsI showed a lover some of your posts. He wondered if you were going to be the next Anders Breivik.
The
very last thing I want to is getting laid. This pathetic reduction of yours reaffirms you as an
oppressor.
I treat people as individuals. Therefore I am no candidate for the next Breivik. And by the way.
It is precisely because women get laid all the time they are stupid, superficial, etc. Huge amounts of their time is devoted to social plays, fucking, bonding, petting weekends in the bed, partying two or three times a week, chatting, facebook, looking for boyfriends. You cant have it both ways.
In general, I don't like to "play psychologist", but I think this situation warrants it. Trevor, I've kind of watched you, and waited to take something things in before I weighed in on the matter and quite honestly I think your problem is you're intelligent.
Intelligent people, without guidance frequently become victims of their own intellect. They can develop a whole host of anti-social and maladaptive behaviors which will only serve to undermine their life goals. For example, you very clearly intellectualize your emotions.
Rather than directly deal with your feelings of rejection or alienation in dating you "ideologize" them. You focus on rules and abstract notions of fairness. This allows you to argue with ideas, rather than cope with feelings. It also allows you make other people responsible for your feelings.
Maybe you have experienced being socially marginalized, as many intelligent people do because of difficulty in conforming to a complex set of rules which have no apparently logical basis. This frustration only gets worse when an intelligent person moves into dating. Because of the disparity between intention, speech and action in dating, intelligent people catch on to these unspoken rules much less quickly.
But you also display a certain egotism - that is, you behave as though you are the only person who experiences this frustration. And maybe, to some extent in coming to this forum you are seeking some kind of validation, but this the absolute worst place to look for it. But, again, as an intelligent person, this may be the only place you know to look.
There are two things I would like for you to think about. The first is to consider what kind of frustrations and obstacles intelligent women face in dating. For most of my life the majority of close friends were female. What I can tell you is that, even in the late 90's, here in the U.S. they frequently found that most guys were intimidated by their intelligence. This was during the rise of "geeky is cool" so this eased things a little bit. But many were surprised to find that "geek guys" were in some ways more socially regressive in their views on women than "normal" guys. I have a variety of speculations on this might be, but this is irrelevant. I just want you to think about how intelligent women might also experience similar frustrations as yourself, though perhaps taking slightly different forms.
The next thing I would like you to think about is how discussing this on-line does anything to resolve these feelings. Blaming external factors will do nothing but increase your sense of helplessness. Taking ownership however will be empowering. You will find little to no resolution to these feelings, except to find ways to be successful in dating. You will have to learn to play by some of the rules, but what you may discover is that not all of the rules are bad (though many are) and not every girl likes to play them. You are right that a lot of people (notice I said people, not girls/women) are disingenuous and play games, but you just have to tough it out and find those that aren't. When you think about it, this is really not that different than finding friends, it's just a greater magnitude of frustration/annoyance.
Now I have no idea what your reaction to this post will be. I suspect you will either dismiss, or deflect it. That's fine. And my analysis could be totally off base. But either way, please understand that I am really attempting to reach out to what appears to be, from my end, a hurting person.
